thingsyouwishedyouasked:

failedwillsave:

lava-is-soft:

 

Important

There is a significant difference between consenting BDSM and abuse.

tarot-sybarite:

Depression:

• Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (2433) – Can use in US, U.K., Canada and Singapore
• Suicide Crisis Line: 1-800-999-9999
• National Suicide Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-TALK (8245)
• National Adolescent Suicide Helpline: 1-800-621-4000
• Postpartum Depression: 1-800-PPD-MOMS
• NDMDA Depression Hotline – Support Group: 1-800-826-3632
• Veterans: 1-877-VET2VET
• Crisis Help Line – For Any Kind of Crisis: 1-800-233-4357
• Suicide & Depression Crisis Line – Covenant House: 1-800-999-9999
• Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide: (UK only) 0844-561-6855
• Beyondblue info line: (Australia only) 1300-22-4636
• 24/7 Crisis Line:(Canada only) 905-522-1477
• Lifeline Australia: 13-11-14

Domestic Abuse:

• National Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-422-4453
• National Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
• National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324
• Center for the Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504
• Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
• Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-548-2722
• Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111
• Child Abuse Hotline Support & Information: 1-800-792-5200
• Women’s Aid National Domestic Violence Helpline: (UK Only) 0345 023 468
• Sexual Abuse Centre: (UK Only) 0117 935 1707
• Sexual Assault Support (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001
• Domestic & Teen Dating Violence (English & Spanish: 1-800-992-2600
• Relationships Australia: 1300-364-277

Alcohol & Drug Abuse:

• National Association for Children of Alcoholics: 1-888-55-4COAS (1-888-554-2627)
• National Drug Abuse: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
• Al-Anon/Alateen Hope & Help for young people who are the relatives & friends of a problem drinker): 1-800-344-2666
• Alcohol/Drug Abuse Hotline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
• Be Sober Hotline: 1-800-BE-SOBER (1-800-237-6237)
• Cocaine Help Line: 1-800-COCAINE (1-800-262-2463)
• 24 Hour Cocaine Support Line: 1-800-992-9239
• Ecstasy Addiction: 1-800-468-6933
• Marijuana Anonymous: 1-800-766-6779

Youth & Teen Hotlines:

• National Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663
• Youth America Hotline: 1-877-YOUTHLINE (1-877-968-8454)
• Covenant House Nine-Line (Teens): 1-800-999-9999
• Boys Town National: 1-800-448-3000
• Teen Helpline: 1-800-400-0900
• TeenLine: 1-800-522-8336
• Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663 or 1-800-422-0009
• Runaway Support (All Calls are Confidential): 800-231-694
• National Runaway Hotline: (US only) 1800-231-6946
• Child Helpline: (UK Only) 0800-111
• Kids Helpline: (Australia) 1800-55-1800
• Youth to Youth: (UK only) 020-8896-3675
• Kids Help Phone Canada: 1800-688-6868
• National Youth Crisis Hotline:(US only) 800-442-442-4673 

Pregnancy Hotlines:

• AAA Crisis Pregnancy Center: 1-800-560-0717
• Pregnancy Support: 1-800-4-OPTIONS (1-800-467-8466)
• Pregnancy National Helpline: 1-800-356-5761
• Young Pregnant Support: 1-800 550-4900

Gay and Lesbian Hotlines:

• The Trevor Helpline (For homosexuality questions or problems): 1-800-850-8078
• Gay & Lesbian National Support: 1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)
• Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender (GLBT) Youth Support Line: 1-800-850-8078
• Lesbian & Gay Switchboard: (UK Only) 0121 622 6589
• Lothian Gay & Lesbian Switchboard – Scotland: (Scotland Only) 0131 556 4049

Other Hotlines:

• Self-Injury Support: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288) (www.selfinjury.com)
• Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention: 1-800-931-2237 (Hours: 8am-noon daily, PST)
• Eating Disorders Center: 1-888-236-1188
• Help Finding a Therapist: 1-800-THERAPIST (1-800-843-7274)
• Panic Disorder Information and Support: 1-800-64-PANIC (1-800-647-2642)
• TalkZone (Peer Counselors): 1-800-475-TALK (1-800-475-2855)
• Parental Stress Hotline: 1-800-632-8188
• Parent Help Line (Australia only): 1300-364-100
• National AIDS Helpline: (UK Only) 0800 567 123
• Mensline Australia: 1300-789-978

Want a country by country list? Here are some more resources: helplines

The following sites also provides a country by country list of helplines available: 

• befrienders
• international suicide hotlines

cutevictim:

 Made rebloggable upon request. Original ask here.

Stop trying to “get it together.” The biggest lie we’re told when we’re growing up is that soon as we’re adults, as soon as we’re in college, finish college, get that job, have that steady income, find that someone special, “find ourselves,” find that perfect house, get that retirement fund, have those children, everything will fall into place. Here’s a secret: it won’t. Every new development in your life, good or bad, big or small, will come with its own very special set of challenges. The sooner you accept that, the better off you’ll be. But the myth is perpetuated throughout life, perhaps now more than ever with happy status updates on Facebook and blushing bride/happy multi-tasking mommy blog posts. What these success stories don’t tell you is what is going on behind closed doors. They don’t tell you that your friend who is so over the moon with her new baby had to apply for food stamps. They don’t tell you that your fantastic, involved professor struggles with depression. They don’t tell you that your happily married friend still has nightmares about her abusive ex. They don’t tell you the cousin who just got that jealousy-inducing job opportunity is thinking of breaking up with his boyfriend of 10 years. What closely interacting with people from all backgrounds on the Internet for over a decade has taught me is that no one “has it together” in the way we think they do. So stop trying to have that as your goal, because you are just setting yourself up for massive failure.

(via smashingchampagne)

boeshanepeninsula:

(◕‿◕✿) facts about divorce for feminists and MRAs:

• in most (51%) of cases, both parents decided on their own (out of court) that the mother was to receive full custody
• in 29% of custody cases, the decision was made without any third party involvement
• in 91% of cases, the decision for the mother to have custody was made without court involvement
• of those who go to court, 70% of men who seek custody of their child receive it
• of those 70%, 1/3 of the cases cited domestic abuse as part of the reason for divorce
• women who mention having been victims of domestic abuse in court are less likely to receive custody of their children than women who didn’t

i’m tired of seeing posts on feminism by both feminists and MRAs citing “gender bias in custody cases” as a problem we need to solve. women aren’t unfairly receiving custody more often. abusive men are unfairly receiving custody.

the fact is, if my dad had actually attended his court ordered anger management type classes, i would legally have been required to spend a portion of my time with him until i turned 18, even though he beat my mother and abused me.

don’t let anyone make you think that the scale isn’t still tipped toward men in a court of law.

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Abusive Friendships

aboveabuse:

Abusive friendships are rarely discussed, with the role of abuse being mostly emphasized in romantic and familial relationships. However, friendships can be just as abusive, especially if the friend is someone close to or important to you.

I’ve had experience with abusive friendships, and the most common I’ve seen and heard of is emotional abuse – here are a few examples of this:

• if your friend constantly demeans you, treats you like you are lesser
• may blame sadness on you, always expect you to fix their emotions and problems for them
• becomes jealous of other friends – refuses to let you have friends outside of them, thus isolating you
• making suicide threats if you don’t meet their requests (this is different from your friend simply being suicidal – this is often repetitive and is clear that it relies solely on your actions)
• and any other signs of emotional abuse.

Friends can also be abusive physically (which can be discounted as playful and friendly – but if it is causing physical harm that you are not okay with, it is abuse), and sexually.

The important thing to remember is that the abuse is not your fault, and the abuser being a friend does not discredit the abuse whatsoever. It is not okay for a person to treat anyone this way, and definitely not a friend.

(Critique and discussion on whether or not there are problematic elements in our posts is always welcomed!)

celestialdeth:

thorin-and-twerkteam:

emotional abuse is when someone does something to hurt you, and when you express your feelings, that you’re upset, they turn it around to be something you did to hurt them and they force you to apologize for it, and your feelings, like always, are rendered invalid and silenced, forever damaging the ability to trust others with your feelings because they always are used against you.

This hits way too close to home

mistarspock:

“You know it’s love when they could be breaking every goddamn bone in your body but you’d be okay with it.”

The Reason ‘Reading is Fundamental’ REALLY bothered me

jackhawksmoor:

So I re-watched it, and some things I feel better about. But there is one thing that just gets more terrible the more I look at it. I’m sure they didn’t do it on purpose, and I’m sure it won’t even bother most people, but I found it terribly upsetting, and I’m having a hard time with it.

I’ve worked with people with closed head injuries, and people in locked wards. I’ve spent long hours with schizophrenics who refuse to take their medication and people who will probably never be able to care for themselves out in the world again.

THIS

is abuse.

“But Jack, you don’t understand,  Dean was just-“

No. I am simply telling you that I would be fired for this, and possibly, if caught on tape, brought up on charges.

I know. It’s a show. I’m just saying, I’ve had hours and HOURS of training and workshops on how to recognize this in myself, and in my coworkers, and in the family members that visit.

“But that seems awfully-“

Yes it is that strict. You cannot get angry with a patient. You cannot take your anger out on a patient. If you see other people taking their anger out on your patient, even family members there are steps you have to take.

I know they didn’t mean to do it. It still really upset me to see them emotionally beating up a mentally ill person. You cannot do that. IT IS NOT OKAY. There is no excuse that makes it okay.

And of course,

The actual beating. Which was awesome to watch of somebody who a minute before was doing this

Still wearing the clothes they had him in at the institution, just to complete the visual. So that whole scene was kinda disgusting for me to watch. Especially given that it was his sister beating him up. Awesome echoes of familial abuse.

SO YEAH

this episode was really hard for me. I didn’t like it.

Does your partner blame it on your bisexuality? It could be partner abuse.

Does your partner blame it on your bisexuality? It could be partner abuse.

evelark:

bisexual-community:

Does your partner blame it on your bisexuality?
It could be partner abuse.

Does your partner:

• get jealous of people in your life regardless of their gender?
• make fun of you for being bisexual?
• try to control how you dress or act?
• force you to choose between being straight or being gay/lesbian?
• accuse you of cheating or flirting with others?
• use money or gifts to make you feel like you owe them something?
• prevent you from being out as bisexual?
• not respect your safeword?
• pressure you to have sex in ways that you don’t want to?
• keep you from going to LGBTQ events?

Abusers may say:

• “I know I can’t trust you alone with your friends because you’ll sleep with anyone.”
• “You aren’t really part of the LGBTQ community.”
• “If you leave me, I’ll tell your boss that you are bi.”
• “I know that all you bisexuals are just sluts.”
• “You are just confused about your sexuality.”
• “If you want to be with me, you have to be a lesbian/gay.” OR “If you want to be with me, you have to be straight.”
• “Don’t tell anyone that you’ve been with men before, that’s disgusting.” OR “Don’t tell anyone that you’ve been with women before, that’s disgusting.”
• “I know you are going to leave me for a woman.” OR “I know you are going to leave me for a man.”

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Most of the men I’ve dated have at some point said they were worried about me cheating on them with a woman (but not with a man) because I’m bisexual. I don’t consider all of those men abusive (though at least one definitely was), but it’s a clear pattern that concerns me, and in the case of the man who was abusive, it was one of the things he twisted and used in his abuse. Like he found it a convenient excuse to be controlling and distrustful.