Self Care for Monsters

This isn’t so much a list of self care activities, as things I wish every monster could hear.

It’s okay to be a monster.

Even if society says it’s not.

Even if you feel like monsters aren’t okay.

It’s okay. You have a right to exist.

Being a monster isn’t the same as being someone who is actively hurting others.

It’s really okay.

You don’t deserve to be hated for who you are.

Nobody does. Including you.

You are not inherently less than others, and you deserve respect and decency.

Even if society disagrees.

You deserve to have a safe space if you want it.

Even if it’s just a small patch, you deserve somewhere to feel safe.

Everyone does.

But sometimes what’s safe for a monster isn’t safe for others.

Make sure people understand about your safe spaces, and that not everyone will be welcome, or even encouraged to share it with you.

But it’s still okay to want to feel safe.

It’s okay to express yourself.

You have the right express your emotions.

That includes anger.

You don’t have the right to harm others in your expressions of emotions.

But you should be allowed to express yourself in nonharmful ways.

Even if your expressions look weird or different or may look scary to others-this goes with safe spaces-find ways and beings you can express things too.

Your voice matters and your opinion deserves to be heard.

You are not less of a person because you are a monster.

People will try to say you are.

They are wrong.

They just don’t want to think about monsters as people because it’s messy.

You matter.

Having violent thoughts does not make you bad, wrong, or not worthy of consideration.

It just doesn’t.

You have the right to your sexuality, as long as all involved are consenting and no one is being harmed.

Even if it’s weird. Or kinky. Or different.

Having fetishes and paraphilias doesn’t make you a bad person.

Society will judge you for this. You’ll have to be careful who you trust. I’m so sorry.

It’s still okay to have your own expression of sexuality, and your own relationship with sex. No one should force you to change it.

You should be able to receive help IF YOU WANT IT.

Finding someone who will help monsters can be hard.

But you still have the right to competent help. That doesn’t change just because you’re a monster.

You also have the right to refuse help.

Some people would rather stay monsters, and that’s okay.

You don’t deserve to be demonized.

I’m sorry you’re a scapegoat.

I’ll never know your full story, I just know mine.

You don’t deserve this.

Being a monster doesn’t mean you need to be punished or hurt.

It’s not easy to be a monster in a world full of not monsters. I wish I could help. I wish I could make it easier for you. All I can say is my inbox is open if you need to talk. I won’t judge you. I won’t yell at you. I’ll just listen.

Good luck.

Posted by pistoletdefleurs

Get scared. It will do you good. Smoke a bit, stare blankly at some ceilings, beat your head against some walls, refuse to see some people, paint and write. Get scared some more. Allow your little mind to do nothing but function. Stay inside, go out – I don’t care what you’ll do; but stay scared as hell. You will never be able to experience everything. So, please, do poetical justice to your soul and simply experience yourself.

Albert Camus, Notebooks 1951-1959 (via larmoyante)